Feel Love’s Wound
( An excerpt from Avatar Adi Da‘s beautiful Instruction
in how to truly live the life of love. )*
Even The Heart-Necessity To Love and To Be Loved Is A
Wound. Even The Fullest Realization Of Love Is A Wound That Never Heals.
The egoic Ritual Calls every individual To Defend himself or herself Against
The Wounds Of Love and The Wounding Signs Of Un-Love (or egoic self-Contraction)
In the daily world. Therefore, Even In The Context Of True Intimacy, The
Tendency (Apart From Spiritual Responsibility) Is To Act As If Every Wound
(Which Is Simply A Hurt) Is An Insult (or A Reason To Punish)….
It Is Not Necessary (or Even Possible) To Become Immune
To The Feeling Of Being Rejected. To Become Thus Immune, You Would Have
To Become Immune To Love Itself. What Is Necessary (and Also Possible)
Is To Enter Fully Into The Spiritual Life-Sphere Of Love….
You Must Stop Dramatizing The egoic Ritual Of Betrayal
In Reaction To The Feeling Of Being Rejected. You Must Understand, Transcend,
and Release The Tendency To Respond (or React) To Signs Of Rejection (or
Signs That You Are Not Loved) As If You Are Insulted, Rather Than Wounded.
That Is To Say, You Must Stop Punishing and Rejecting others When You Feel
Rejected. If You Punish another When You Feel This, You Will Act As If
You Are Immune To Love’s Wound. Thus, You Will Pretend To Be Angrily Insulted,
Rather Than Suffer To Be Wounded. In The Process, You Will Withdraw and
Withhold Love. You Will Stand Off, Independent and Dissociated. You Will
Only Reinforce The Feeling Of Being Rejected, and You Will Compound It
By Actually Rejecting the other. In This Manner, You Will Become Un-Love.
You Will Fail To Love. You Will Fail To Live In The Sphere Of Love. Your
Own Acts Of Un-Love Will Degrade You, Delude You, and Separate You From
Your Love-partner (or Your partners In Love) and From Love Itself. Therefore,
those who Fail To Practice The Sadhana 1
Of Love In their intimate emotional-sexual relationships (and In human
relationships Generally) Will, By That Failure, Turn Away (or Contract)
From Real God (or The Great Condition That Is Reality Itself).
Love Does Not Fail For You When You Are Rejected or Betrayed
or Apparently Not Loved. Love Fails For You When You Reject, Betray, and
Do Not Love. Therefore, If You Listen To Me, and (Also) If You Hear Me
and (Also) If You See Me 3
Do Not Stand Off From Relationship. Be Vulnerable. Be Wounded, When Necessaryand
Endure That Wound (or Hurt). Do Not Punish the other In Love. Communicate
To one another, Even Discipline one anotherbut Do Not Dissociate From
one another or Fail To Grant one another The Knowledge Of Love. Realize
That each one Wants To Love and To Be Loved By the other In Love. Therefore,
Love. Do This Rather Than Make Any Effort To Get Rid Of The Feeling Of
Being Rejected. To Feel Rejected Is To Feel The Hurt Of Not Being Loved.
Allow That Hurt, but Do Not Let It Become The Feeling Of Lovelessness.
Be Vulnerable, and (Thus) Not Insulted. If You Are Merely Hurt, You Will
Still Know The Necessity (or The Heart’s Requirement) Of Love, and You
Will Still Know The Necessity (or The Heart’s Requirement) To Love.
The Habit Of Reacting To Apparent Rejection (By others)
As If It Were An Insult Always Coincides With (and Only Reveals) The Habit
Of Rejecting (or Not Loving) others. Any one whose Habitual Tendency Is
To Reject and Not Love others (In The Face Of their Apparent Acts Of Rejection
and Un-Love) Will Tend To Reject and Not Love others Even When they Are
Only Loving. NarcissusThe Personification Of the ego, the self-Contraction,
or The Complex Avoidance Of RelationshipIs Famous For his Rejection Of
The Lady, Echo (who Only Loved him). Therefore, If You Listen To Me, and
(Also) If You Hear Me, and (Also) If You See MeBe Vulnerable In Love.
If You Remain Vulnerable In Love You Will Still Feel Love’s Wound, but
You Will Remain In Love. In This Manner, You Will Always Remain In The
human (and, Ultimately, Divine) Sphere Of Love.
Therefore, The Most Direct Way To Know Love In every moment
Is To Be Love In every moment.
*Avatar Adi Da
uses a unique convention of capitalization here (and in some of His other
Writings as well), capitalizing almost every word. This form of capitalization
is (in and of itself) a Teaching device, by which Avatar Adi Da
Communicates to the reader that everything that exists arises as a modification
of the Divine Reality, and it is only our own commitment to the point of
view of the ego that prevents us from living on the basis of this Truth.
2. “Hearing” is a technical term used
by Avatar Adi Da to indicate most fundamental understanding of the act
of egoity (or self-contraction). Hearing is the unique capability to directly
transcend the self-contraction, such that, simultaneous with that transcending,
there is the intuitive awakening to Avatar Adi Da’s Self-Revelation As
the Divine Person and Self-Condition. The capability of true hearing can
only be Granted by Avatar Adi Da’s Grace, to His fully practicing devotee
who has effectively completed the process of listening. Only on the basis
of such hearing can Spiritually Awakened practice of the Way of Adidam
truly (or with full responsibility) begin.
3. When, in the practice of the Way of
Adidam, hearing (or most fundamental self-understanding) is steadily exercised
in meditation and in life, the native feeling of the heart ceases to be
chronically constricted by self-contraction. The heart then begins to Radiate
as love in response to the Divine Spiritual Presence of Avatar Adi Da.
This emotional and Spiritual response of the whole being
is what Avatar Adi Da calls “seeing”. Seeing is emotional conversion from
the reactive emotions that characterize egoic self-obsession, to the open-hearted,
Radiant Happiness that characterizes Spiritual devotion to Avatar Adi Da.
This true and stable emotional conversion coincides with true and stable
receptivity to Avatar Adi Da’s Spiritual Transmission, and both of these
are prerequisites to further Spiritual advancement in the Way of Adidam.
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longer version: “Feel Love’s
from “The Emotional-Sexual Frontal
Yoga of The ego-Transcending Wound of Love”,
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