Fundamental to the discipline of love is letting go. You are practicing attachment and using it as an excuse to immunize yourself. The discipline of love requires letting people go. I do not mean letting them disappear. I mean giving them their life, giving them your feeling rather than withholding it, allowing them to grow, supporting their growth, supporting their free process of life.
You are not practicing the discipline of love. You are indulging in your own egoic "self-possession" and fear and reluctance and resistance, and you are immunizing yourself. What people usually call love is attachment, whereas real love is a great discipline and it requires great self-understanding, great self-discipline.
Adi Da Samraj - 1993