Feel Love’s Wound (longer version)

Feel Love’s Wound *


Avatar Adi Da Samraj

The egoic (or self-Contracted) individual Is (By Virtue
Of his or her History, self-Idea, and Lack Of Spiritual, Transcendental,
and Divine Realization) Chronically Bound To The Ritual Of Rejection. The
emotional (or emotional-sexual) Career Of egoity Tends To Manifest As A
Chronic Complaint That Always Says, By Countless Means, “You Do Not Love
me.” This Abusive Complaint Is Itself The Means Whereby the egoic individual
Constantly Enforces his or her Chronic Wanting Need To Reject, Avoid, or
Fail To Love others. Indeed, This Complaint Is More Than A Complaint. It
Is A self-Image (The Heart-Sick or self-Pitying and Precious Idea That
“I” Is Rejected) and An Angry Act Of Retaliation (Whereby others Are Punished
For Not Sufficiently Adoring, pleasurizing, and Immortalizing the Precious

The egoic (or self-Contracted) individual Is Chronically
and Reactively Contracted From all of its relations. Fear Is The Root Of
this self-Contraction, and The Conceived Purpose Of this self-Contraction
Is self-Preservation, and Even self-Glorification. Indeed, Fear Is
the self-Contraction. The self-Contraction (or the ego-I) Is The
Root-Action (or Primal Mood) That Is Fear. Therefore, All Of The self-Preserving,
self-Glorifying, and other-Punishing Efforts Of the ego-“I” (or the self-Contracted
body-mind) Only Preserve, Glorify, and Intensify Fear Itself

Fear, the ego-“I”, Un-Love, or The Total Ritual Of self-Contraction
Must Be Understood and Manscended. All Of Fear, egoity, self-Contraction,
or Un-Love Is Only Suffering. It Is Only Destructive. And It Is Entirely

Fear, egoity, self-Contraction, or Un-Love Is Chronically
Expressed Through The Complex Ritual Of Rejection, or The Communication
Of The Dominant Idea “You Do Not Love me”. Once This Is (In The Way Of
The Heart
) Truly, and Completely, and Most Fundamentally Understood—The Ritual
Of Rejection, Fear, egoity, self-Contraction, or Un-Love Can Be Directly
Transcended, If Only It Is Summarily Replaced By The Ordeal (or Discipline
and Practice) Of ego-Transcending Love, and (Then, By Means Of My Avatarically
Self-Transmitted Divine Grace) Heart-Communion With Me and (Ultimately)
Heart-Communication Of My Avatarically Self-Revealed (and Self-Evidently
Divine) Self-Condition, In The Form “I Love You”.

Therefore, In The Way and Manner Of The Heart, Understand
Your Separate and Separative self (As Un-Love) and Transcend Your Separate
and Separative self (By Love). And This Is Perfected (Progressively, In
The Way and Manner Of The Heart) By Devotional (or ego-Transcending and
ego-Forgetting) Heart-Surrender Of the conditional body-mind To My Avatarically-Born
Bodily (Human) Divine Form, and My Avatarically Self-Revealed Spiritual
(and Always Blessing) Divine Presence, and My Avatarically Self-Revealed
(and Very, and Transcendental, and Perfectly Subjective, and Inherently
Spiritual, and Inherently egoless, and Inherently Perfect, and Self-Evidently
Divine) State.

If You Will Thus Be Love (By This Devotion To Me),
You Must Also Constantly Encounter, Understand, and anscend The Rejection
Rituals Of others who Are (Even If Temporarily or Only Apparently) Bereft
Of Divine Wisdom. Therefore, If You Will Be Love (As My Devotee),
You Must (In The Way and Manner Of The Heart) Always Skillfully Transcend
The Tendency To Become Un-Love (and, Thus, To Become self-Bound, Apparently
Divorced From Heart-Communion With Me) In Reaction To The Apparent Lovelessness
Of others. And You Must Not Withdraw From Heart-Communion With Me (or Become
Degraded By Reactive Un-Love) Even When Circumstances Within Your Intimate
Sphere (or Within The Sphere Of Your Appropriate social Responsibility)
Require You To Make Difficult Gestures To Counter and Control The Effects
(or Undermine and Discipline The Negative and Destructive Effectiveness)
Of The Rituals Of Un-Love That Are Performed By others.

For those who Are Committed To Love (and who, Therefore,
Always Commune With Me, The One Who Is Love), Even Rejection By
others Is Received and Accepted As A Wound, Not An Insult. Even The Heart-Necessity
To Love and To Be Loved Is A Wound. Even The Fullest Realization Of Love
Is A Wound That Never Heals.

The egoic Ritual Calls every individual To Defend himself
or herself Against The Wounds Of Love and The Wounding Signs Of Un-Love
(or egoic self-Contraction) In the daily world. Therefore, Even In The
Context Of True Intimacy,
The Tendency (Apart From Spiritual Responsibility) Is To Act As If Every
Wound (Which Is Simply A Hurt) Is An Insult (or A Reason To Punish).

The Reactive Rituals Of egoity Must Be Released By The
ego-Transcending (and Then Spiritual) Practice Of Love. This Requires Each
and Every Practitioner Of The Way Of The Heart To Observe, Understand,
and Relinquish The emotionally Reactive Cycle Of Rejection and Punishment.
And The Necessary Prerequisites For Such Relinquishment Are Vulnerability
(or The Ability To Feel The Wounds Of Love Without Retaliation), Sensitivity
To the other In Love (or The Ability To Sympathetically Observe, Understand,
Forgive, Love, and Not Punish or Dissociate From the other In Love), and
Love Itself (or The Ability To Love, To Know You Are Loved, To Receive
Love, and To Know That Both You and the other, Regardless Of Any Appearance
To The Contrary, Are Vulnerable To Love and Heart-Requiring Of Love).

It Is Not Necessary (or Even Possible) To Become Immune
To The Feeling Of Being Rejected. To Become Thus Immune, You Would Have
To Become Immune To Love Itself What Is Necessary (and Also Possible) Is
To Enter Fully Into The Spiritual Life-Sphere Of Love. In The Way Of The
Heart, This Is Done By First Entering (By Heart) Into My Spiritual Company,
and (Therein) Surrendering To My Divine “Embrace” Of Love—Wherein Not
Only Are You Loved, but You Are (To The Degree the ego-“I” Is Surrendered,
Forgotten, and Transcended In Me) Love Itself. Then You Must Magnify That
Love-Radiance In the world of human relationships.

If You Will Do This, Then You Must Do The Sadhana 5
(or Concentrated Practice) Of True Active Love and Real (True and Steady)
Trust. As A Practical Matter, You Must Stop Dramatizing The egoic Ritual
Of Betrayal In Reaction To The Feeling Of Being Rejected. You Must Understand,
Transcend, and Release The Tendency To Respond (or React) To Signs Of Rejection
(or Signs That You Are Not Loved) As If You Are Insulted, Rather Than Wounded.
That Is To Say, You Must Stop Punishing and Rejecting others When You Feel
Rejected. If You Punish another When You Feel This, You Will Act As If
You Are Immune To Love’s Wound. Thus, You Will Pretend To Be Angrily Insulted,
Rather Than Suffer To Be Wounded. In The Process, You Will Withdraw and
Withhold Love. You Will Stand Off, Independent and Dissociated. You Will
Only Reinforce The Feeling Of Being Rejected, and You Will Compound It
By Actually Rejecting the other. In This Manner, You Will Become Un-Love.
You Will Fail To Love. You Will Fail To Live In The Sphere Of Love. Your
Own Acts Of Un-Love Will Degrade You, Delude You, and Separate You From
Your Love-partner (or Your partners In Love) and From Love Itself. Therefore,
those who Fail To Practice The Sadhana Of Love In their intimate emotional-sexual
relationships (and In human relationships Generally) Will, By That Failure,
Turn Away (or Contract) From Real God
(or The Great Condition That Is Reality Itself).

Love Does Not Fail For You When You Are Rejected or Betrayed
or Apparently Not Loved. Love Fails For You When You Reject, Betray, and
Do Not Love. Therefore, If You Listen To Me, and (Also) If You Hear Me,
and (Also) If You See Me
—Do Not Stand Off From Relationship. Be Vulnerable. Be Wounded, When Necessary—and
Endure That Wound (or Hurt). Do Not Punish the other In Love. Communicate
To one another, Even Discipline one another—but Do Not Dissociate From
one another or Fail To Grant one another The Knowledge Of Love. Realize
That each one Wants To Love and To Be Loved By the other In Love. Therefore,
Love. Do This Rather Than Make Any Effort To Get Rid Of The Feeling Of
Being Rejected. To Feel Rejected Is To Feel The Hurt Of Not Being Loved.
Allow That Hurt, but Do Not Let It Become The Feeling Of Lovelessness.
Be Vulnerable, and (Thus) Not Insulted. If You Are Merely Hurt, You Will
Still Know The Necessity (or The Heart’s Requirement) Of Love, and
You Will Still Know The Necessity (or The Heart’s Requirement) To

The Habit Of Reacting To Apparent Rejection (By others)
As If It Were An Insult Always Coincides With (and Only Reveals) The Habit
Of Rejecting (or Not Loving) others. Any one whose Habitual Tendency Is
To Reject and Not Love others (In The Face Of their Apparent Acts Of Rejection
and UnLove) Will Tend To Reject and Not Love others Even When they Are
Only Loving. Narcissus—The Personification Of the ego, the self-Contraction,
or The Complex Avoidance Of Relationship—Is Famous For his Rejection Of
The Lady, Echo (who Only Loved him). Therefore, If You Listen To Me, and
(Also) If You Hear Me, and (Also) If You See Me—Be Vulnerable In Love.
If You Remain Vulnerable In Love, You Will Still Feel Love’s Wound, but
You Will Remain In Love. In This Manner, You Will Always Remain In The
human (and, Ultimately, Divine) Sphere Of Love.

Therefore, The Most Direct Way To Know Love In every moment
Is To Be Love In every moment.

In The Only-By-Me Revealed and Given Way Of The Heart
(or Way Of Adidam), My Devotee Is Founded In This Capability By Virtue
Of his or her Constant Heart-Communion With Me. Therefore, If any such
a one Fails To Be Steady In Heart-Communion With Me, Then he or she Will
Become Weak In Love. And To Be Weak In Love (At Any Stage Of Life) Is To
Be Always Already Independent, Insulted, Empty With Craving, In Search
Of Love, Manipulative, Un-Happy, and Moved To Punish, Betray, and Destroy
all relationships. Such a Weak one Always Already Feels Rejected and Is
Never Satisfied. Indeed, such a one Is Not Even Found To Be Truly Lovable
By others. Therefore, Be Always Only Sudden Love.

By Actively egoically Not Loving (or By egoically Disliking,
egoically Rejecting, egoically Hating, or, In Any Manner, Actively egoically
Un-Loving) what and whom You (egoically) Do Not Love, You Mutilate (and,
Effectively, Destroy) Your psycho-physical Integrity (or Hearted body-mind).
Likewise, By Actively egoically Not Loving You, what or who (In The self-Contracted,
or egoic, Manner) Does Not Love You Cannot but Mutilate and Effectively
Destroy its own (or his or her own) psycho-physical Integrity (or Hearted
body-mind). Understand This. Activate Your lifetime On The Basis Of This
Twofold Understanding. Thoroughly (and Most Fundamentally) Understand Your
ego-“I”, and (By The Really and Truly Effective Counter-egoic Means I Reveal
and Give To You, and To every one and all), Actively (Constantly), and
In The ego-anscending Manner, Love each and every thing and one In Me.

Always Actively Be My True Devotee—Always Actively Heart-Radiating
Through and Beyond all self-Contraction, Even (Thus and Thereby) “Brightening”
Your Own (and entire) body-mind In Me. Therefore, Do Not Do Fear, Sorrow,
Anger, or Even Any Kind Of Un-Love In egoic (or selfContracted, or Heart-Contracted)
Reaction To any thing or any one that Actively (or, Otherwise, Apparently)
Does Not Love You, but Only (Actively, and Constantly) Do
Love. Do This Love-Sadhana (or Discipline and Way Of The Heart) By Actively
Abiding In Constant ego-Surrendering, ego-Forgetting, and ego-Transcending
Heart-Communion With Me, Yielding The Four Principal Faculties (Of sense-body,
emotion, attention, and breath)
In Love-Response To My Inherent and Inherently “Bright” Attractiveness,
Always Heart-Yielding In Love With Me—For I Am The Divine Spiritual
Presence That Is Ever-Present (Even To Every Heart) As The Always Already
“Bright” (Self-Existing and Self-Radiant) Divine Love-Bliss-Feeling (Presence,
and Person, and State) Of Being (Itself).

Those who Love Are Love, and others Inevitably
Love them. Those who Seek For Love Are Not themselves Active Love, and
So they Do Not Find It. (And Even If they Are Loved, they Do Not Get The
Knowledge Of It.) Only The Lover Is Lovable. Therefore, I Call and “Brighten”
Every Heart To Be As True Love Is. And My Every Listening
Devotee, My Every Hearing Devotee, and My Every Seeing Devotee Is (By Me)
Gifted and Enabled To Realize (and, Thus, To Really and Truly Demonstrate)
This Radiant (and Radiating) Principle (and Way) Of The Heart By Means
Of True Active (and Freely, Deeply Attracted) Love Of Me (and With Real,
True Itust In Me), The One Who Is (Self-Existing) As Self-Radiant
Love (or The “Bright”) Itself.


* Avatar
Adi Da uses a unique convention of capitalization here (and in some of
His other Writings as well), capitalizing almost every word. This form
of capitalization is (in and of itself) a Teaching device by which Avatar
Adi Da Communicates to the reader that everything that exists arises as
a modification of the Divine Reality, and it is only our own commitment
to the point of view of the ego that prevents us from living on the basis
of this Truth.

1. The ego-“l” is the fundamental activity
of self-contraction, or the presumption of separate and separative existence.

2. “The Way of the Heart” is an alternate
name for the Way Given by Avatar Adi Da—primarily known as “Adidam” or
“The Way of Adidam”.

3. The term “Avataric” (and vanants such
as “Avatarically”) indicates that Avatar Adi Da’s human Incarnation is
not merely the life of an ordinary man, but the utterly Divine “Descent”
of Real God in human Form.

4. “True intimacy” is Avatar Adi Da’s
technical phrase for the sadhana (or Spiritual and Yogic discipline) of
devotion to Him in the context of emotional-sexual intimacy, whether or
not the intimates are sexually active. “True intimacy” is a discipline
to which all intimately related devotees of Avatar Adi Da adapt from the
beginning of their practice of the Way of Adidam.

5. “Sadhana” is a Sanskrit word that means
“self-transcending religious or Spiritual practice”

6. The term “Real God” indicates the True
Source of all conditions, the True and Spiritual Divine Person, rather
than any egoic (and, thus, false, or limited) presumptions about “God”.

7. “Listening” is Avatar Adi Da’s technical
term for the orientation, disposition, and beginning practice of the Way
of Adidam. A listening devotee “listens” to Avatar Adi Da Samraj by “considering”
His Teaching-Argument and His Leelas (stories), and by practicing feeling-Contemplation
of Him (primarily of His bodily human Divine Form). In the total (or full
and complete) practice of the Way of Adidam, effective listening is the
necessary prerequisite for true hearing and true seeing.

“Hearing” is a technical term used by Avatar Adi Da to
indicate most fundamental understanding of the act of egoity (or self-contraction).
Hearing is the unique capability to directly transcend the self-contraction,
such that, simultaneous with that transcending, there is the intuitive
awakening to Avatar Adi Da’s Self-Revelation As the Divine Person and Self-Condition.
The capability of true hearing can only be Granted by Avatar Adi Da’s Grace,
to His fully practicing devotee who has effectively completed the process
of listening. Only on the basis of such hearing can Spiritually Awakened
practice of the Way of Adidam truly (or with full responsibility) begin.

When, in the practice of the Way of Adidam, hearing (or
most fundamental self-understanding) is steadily exercised in meditation
and in life, the native feeling of the heart ceases to be chronically constricted
by self-contraction. The heart then begins to Radiate as love in response
to the Divine Spiritual Presence of Avatar Adi Da.

This emotional and Spiritual response of the whole being
is what Avatar Adi Da calls “seeing”. Seeing is emotional conversion from
the reactive emotions that characterize egoic self-obsession, to the open-hearted,
Radiant Happiness that characterizes Spiritual devotion to Avatar Adi Da.
This true and stable emotional conversion coincides with true and stable
receptivity to Avatar Adi Da’s Spintual Transmission, and both of these
are prerequisites to further Spiritual advancement in the Way of Adidam.

8. By the word “Bright” (and its variations,
such as “Brightness”), Avatar Adi Da refers to the eternally, infinitely,
and inherently Self-Radiant Divine, Indivisible and Indestructible Light

9. Avatar Adi Da has Instructed His devotees
that the practice of devotional Communion with Him involves the effortless
and direct surrender of the four principal faculties of the human body-mind.
These faculties are mind (or attention), emotion (or feeling), body, and

The above is an excerpt from:

The Emotional-Sexual Frontal Yoga of

The ego-Transcending Wound Of Love“,

in Ruchira Avatara Hridaya-Tantra

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