Conscious Childrearing Summary Table

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Description of
Adaptation

• Individuation
• Physical
  adaptation
• Relationship to
  food

• Sensitivity to etheric
  energy
• Relational and moral
  development
• emotional-sexual
  development

• Development of mental
  faculties
• Developpment of the
  will
• Integration of all first three
  stage functions
• Adaptation to conservation of
  life-force

What Child
Needs

from
adults

• Nurturing
• Bodily
  communication
• Help with skill
  development
• Praise and
  encouragement
• Order and
  consistency

• Feeling culture
• Open communication about the
  life-force
• Continued praise and
  encouragement
• Development of feeling through
  touch
• Intimate social
  sphere
• Respect Agreements

• Balance of nurturing and
  challenge
• Relationship based on
  understanding
• Autonomy from
  parents
• Embrace by culture
• Confession
• Heart-expression
• Help with
  life-choices
• Development of sacred arts and
  apprenticeships

What not to
do

• Don’t
  talk—act
• Don’t make them the center of
  attention
• Don’t treat them like an object of
  amusement

• Don’t
  talk—act
• Don’t threaten the
  child
• Don’t be a drill
  sergeant

• Don’t leave them to their own
  devices
• Don’t supress them

What to expect of
them

• Breathing
• Eye contact
• Blessing
• Responsiveness
• Sila

• Disposition of
  Love
• Respect for and obedience to
  adults
• Service
• Positive Speech
• Right Posture
• Cleanliness

• Devotion to Beloved Adi Da
  Samraj
• Self-generated practice of the Way
  of the Heart
• Sexual Discipline
• Personal yamas &
  niyamas
• Respect for and cooperation with
  adults
• Community
  participation
• Confession

Practical life
components

• Intimacy with the
  Divine
• Feeling
  sensitivity
• Nature
• The arts

• Intimacy with the
  Divine
• Feeling
  sensitivity
• Confession
• Service
• Sacred arts
• Sex education
• Strong boys and girls
  culture
• Meetings with
  adults

• Full Daily
  Schedule
• Comprehensive
  Education
• Larger cultural
  circumstances
• Sacred arts
  Apprenticeships

Signs of
maturity

• Independence from
  mother
• Feeling of being
  sustained
• Awakening of feeling orientation
  to people and nature

• Responsible for etheric
  dimension
• Lives as “I love
  you”

• Basic human
  equanimity
• Discriminative
  intelligence
• Responsive
  heart-feeling
• Will to
  self-transcendence